Trust Your Dreams

Excuses. We make excuses for ourselves when we are too scared to go after something we want, if we are unsure in our abilities we make excuses. This fear blocks us from doing what we dream of, it stops us from reaching our full potential. If you tell yourself an excuse often enough, you will start to believe it. But Kaiser wants us to identify that these excuses aren't real, we are just creating ways of not making ourselves vulnerable in situations that we are uncomfortable with. All excuses are based off one thing: fear. We hold ourselves back and look for something to blame, instead of realizing that the problem is not believing in our abilities (Kaiser 268). I realized that I was making excuses for myself and that was holding me back from my aspirations. For every excuse I had to find a way to place it with a loving thought that worked in opposition. This gave me a lot of motivation to stop being scared to face my fears.

For example, I dance. I absolutely love dancing. I would consistently make the excuse that the reason I wouldn't go "full out" was because I wasn't able to. I would compare myself to the people around me, and that's the reason I didn't try. But I soon realized that I was scared, I was scared to put my whole heart in it and then have someone tell me it was bad. You can't let fear stop you, it has to stand as motivation to prove yourself wrong. "Your fear-based thought are blocking you from reaching self-love, but when you approach these excuses with loving thoughts, you will see forward momentum and more positive results" (Kaiser 269). We have to see our dreams as more important than the excuses we make for ourselves. I was able to apply this to dance, I only focus on me and the best I can be. I put myself out there because that's the only way I will ever improve. You can't move forward if you're always focusing on what can drag you down.

Question: What's an excuse you make for yourself? 

KAISER, SHANNON. SELF-LOVE EXPERIMENT: Fifteen Principles for Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and... Accepting of Yourself. PENGUIN BOOKS, 2017.